Why Kids Quit

4/21/12

Bad parent behavior during youth sports events can make the news in terrible ways.  Fortunately, these extreme examples do not represent the typical youth sports experience.  The typical expereience is that 70% of young kids enrolled in organized youth sports quit by age 13 and never play sports again.  If 70% of parents are not extreme, then why do so many kids quit?  When asked, kids' answers usually include some variation of "no fun" with "too much pressure" also a popular answer.   The basic compromise between kids and parents is often broken and kids turn to other, often low-parent involvement, activities for fun. 

Being a good sports parent is more often not hitting another parent or not yelling at an official.   A kid's dissatisfaction with playing, the coach, teammates or the team often begins at home.  Many of the things that bother parents do not bother kids until parents make an issue of them.  Being a good sports parent means that a child wants to continue to play sports as long as possible.  Sometimes this means letting children identify and resolve their own issues with parental guidance but not intrusion.

 


 


Supporting Your Kids the Real Way?

4/19/12

Without any other guidance, we handle our kid's sports actitivies the same way our parents did or the way we see other parents do.  Most times, we get it wrong.  With over 70% of kids quitting organized sports by age 13, our sports parenting skills are not something we often brag about.  But, maybe we are lucky that almost 30% keep playing.

Being a good sports parent is not a natural skill.  In fact, being a good sports parent often conflicts with natural parent instincts such as protecting, educating, and supervising.  Stand on the sidelines, we are forced to resist the urges to help and must watch our kids learn to act indepently and become the adults we wish them to be.  Being a good sports parent is hard!

How do you know if you are a good sports parent?  One simple test is if your kids are eager to go to practices and love the game.   Although this sounds like a test that requires a great dea of parent involvement.   A child's development is never a straight path of constant improvement.  At various times, kids will develop quickly, slowly, not at all or even regress.  Sometimes, kids will believe they are the best player on the the team and at other times the worst player.  Parents need to be there to help kids understand this process which is further in everyday life, kids in sports need positive parental education, guidance, and role models.

Kids are their own worst critics.   They are naturally self-critical, self-aware, and self-conscience,.  Parents don't help by being more critical or comparing their child's actitivities with those of their teammates.  Criticism is not education.  Education is patient, encouraging, consistent, nurturing and repetitive.  Education is constantly tested, not to demean skills, but to focus efforts on building skills.

 


 


Icupid Salutes Sabrina Brown for Building All-Star Kids

4/10/12

Sabrina Brown: age: 17 team: Power Surge, Senior Co Ed Level 3
Sabrina has been cheering for 11 years. She is on our Senior Co Ed Level 3 team, Power Surge and Open Hip Hop, HIPnotic. Not only does she cheer, but she also coaches our Parent team, Black Out and our Special Needs team, Extreme Danger. She choreographs routines for our Special Needs, Parent teams and duets and won a Judge's Extreme Award and National Champion title for her duet routine. Sabrina is one of the Team Leaders for our HVA Relay for Life team and has participate in numerous community service projects: Salvation Army Red Kettle Campaign, Blessing of Blankets, making blankets that are donated to local shelters and distributed to the homeless, collecting toys for cancer patients, school supplies for local schools and collection supplies for our adopted soldiers. She has been chosen as an All American several times and was named Top All American in 2009.

Sabrina was nominated by her cheer gym! Sabrina receives samples of all Icupids Luxury Fragrances Girlz Collection.   Keep up the good work!

 


 


Icupids Salute Edgar Rosas for Building All-Star Kids!

4/9/12

Edgar Rosas: age: 17 team: Power Surge Senior Co Ed Level 3
Edgar has been cheering for 4 years and also cheers for his High School team. He has a passion for the sport and works on skills until he masters them. Edgar is on our Senior Co Ed Level 3 team, Power Surge and our Open Hip Hop team, HIPnotic. He also coaches our Parent team, Black Out and our Special Needs team, Extreme Danger. He is a leader and motivator. He encourages the younger athletes with his pep talks, which always includes how confident he is in their skills. Edgar is Vice President of his High School FBLA and Key Club and teaches dance at one of the local dance studios. He is an avid volleyball player and volunteers for local volleyball clinics to teach the sport to younger children. 

Edgar was nominated by his cheer gym! Edgar receives samples of all Icupids Luxury Fragrances Guyz Collection.   Keep up the good work!

 


 


Why Kids Cheer! Scoop for parents and coaches!

4/9/12

Kids play sports to have fun. Primarily, this means being with friends. But, fun includes being active, improving skills, and gaining confidence in abilities. Winning, a common goal of coaches and parents, isn't one of the top reasons that kids play sports. In fact, in a survey of over 10,000 children, winning was number 10 on their list!

 


 


Top 10 Reasons to Fall in Love

4/3/12

10. It makes you better-looking.

This is not a joke. Believe it or not, falling in love can really make you look a lot better. If you’re the type of person who doesn’t care about your physical appearance, fall in love and see how you would change. When you’re in love, you will always try to look your very best not just to impress the one you love but also to feel good about yourself. You feel conscious about your outfit, your hair and your movements.

Even when you don’t exert any effort on improving your appearance, love really brings something magical to its victims. When people are in love, they smile a lot. There is a certain glowing aura that people in love emit that radiates happiness.

9. It makes you nicer.

How can you be mean to people around you when there is someone who makes every minute of your life wonderful? When people are in love, we tend to focus on our feelings for that lucky person and pay not much attention to other things, much less to the things that make our blood reach the boiling point. And because there is someone who makes us smile every time, it is hard to frown and make other people’s lives miserable. We tend to forget our bitter past and our plans of revenge in the future because what matters is the present.

8. It makes you richer.

It doesn’t mean that you should marry Donald Trump or some other billionaire. Even if you fall in love with an average guy, you have more chances of getting rich. This is because you are more inspired to work and you have another reason to work hard. Intentionally or unintentionally, you will find yourself doing your job a little less exhausting because the feeling of going home to someone you love keeps you through the day in a way that you don’t realize how much work you have done. This is true. Studies have shown that individuals in long-term committed relationships earn more than those who stay single. So if you want to get rich, fall in love.


7. It makes you healthier.

When you’re in love, you care about yourself. It’s not just physical appearance, it is your overall well-being including your health. If you used to ignore that migraine you’ve been enduring for years, when you’re in love, there is a high chance that you would call your doctor for an appointment and schedule a check-up. You might even undergo tests that you have been putting off for the longest time like mammogram and PSA. When you’re in love, there is an intense urge to care for your health because you want to live long, because you have a good reason to. You want to live long not just for yourself but also for that special someone.

If suicidal thoughts enter your mind all the time, you will forget about them altogether when you fall in love. You have a reason to live now and you know how your self-destruction makes him or her feel. And you don’t want him/her to be hurt, especially not by you.

6. It makes you mushier.

There’s nothing wrong with being mushy. It only means that you are sentimental and emotional. It only means that you care about how other people feel, especially the person you are in love with. If you have always thought that the lines uttered in those romantic movies are stupid, you will be surprised to find yourself in one, saying those mushy lines. It is alright. There is nothing unmanly about expressing how you feel and letting your significant other know how important he or she is to you. It is not a crime. Being mushy is not a crime.

5. It makes you stronger.

Although it can also make you weaker in certain ways, falling in love makes you stronger. How? First of all, sex is a good workout. Haha.

Seriously, people in love want and try to be strong for themselves and those we care for. We will do and endure anything to protect the person we love and give them what he or she wants. When we are sick, we want to get better fast so we can enjoy more time with him or her. We become stronger so we can catch them when they fall and lift them when their down.

Being strong can also be interpreted in another way. Some people can take all the pain that love brings just so they don’t lose them. Even when they are hurt by factors ranging from differences to third party to family, they choose to stay in the relationship because they are strong enough and they know that it will pass. Love is not easy to let go. If we can keep it, we will. Love is like that. It’s pleasure and pain rolled into one and it takes a lot of strength. Love is not for the weak-hearted.

4. It makes you wiser.

Being in a relationship is not all about sunshines and rainbows. There are bad, depressing moments, too. Although it is not a good reason to fall in love, it is not a reason not to, either. In fact, mistakes are essential in love. Each mistake teaches you something important. Every time you make a mistake, you learn. And every time you learn, you become wiser. This enables you not to do the same mistakes again. Being wise means growing up. And it takes grownups to run a relationship.

3. It makes you more responsible.

If your life is in disarray, you will set everything straight when you’re in love. You will find a good job because you think of your future together. You will take good care of your finances. You will fix your relationship with your family. You will forget about your unfinished business with your exes. You will even clean your room, which you haven’t done since you hit puberty. When you’re in love, your life develops a sense of direction.

2. It makes you more creative.

When you’re in love, you think of new ways to take your loved one’s breath away. You cannot do things over and over again or you will beth get tired. You will be forced to come up with new, refreshing ways of saying “I love you,” of celebrating anniversaries, of letting him or her know how you feel. In some cases, people find themselves learning or trying to do things new to them like writing songs or doing something embarrassing. The funny part is, you don’t complain because you enjoy doing it. Weird, but you really do.

Another way of being creative is when he or she asks you where you have been last night. Yeah, that will really squeeze out all the creative juices in you.

1. It makes you happier.

When you’re in love, you will never find yourself alone. Things will make you happy and it will show big time. You’ll be surprised that you will see yourself smiling and laughing all the time. You think about him or her, you smile. You see him/her walking, you smile. You see him/her trip on her toe, you smile. When you’re in love, you always think positive.


You can think of a million reasons not to but if you can find one good reason to fall in love, do yourself a favor and don’t suppress the feeling. One of the items mentioned above is enough reason to experience the beautiful thing called love. Combine all the reasons and it will only tell you one thing: Falling in love makes you a better person.

The truth is, you don’t need a reason to fall in love. In fact, when you’re in love you don’t ask yourself why you love someone because you will never find an answer that will suffice. You just fall. Why you love someone doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do. Reason has nothing to do with love. And that’s one of the greatest things you will ever learn.

 


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